Communion Of Dreams


Getting close.
January 14, 2008, 9:47 pm
Filed under: Alzheimer's, Health, Hospice, Predictions, Sleep

It’s hard to say when the end will come. But we must be getting close.

How close? Days. Perhaps just hours.

Why do I say this?

Instinct. Well, that and lots and lots of small clues, details that add up to one probability, details that probably most wouldn’t notice.

But among the little things are some big mile-markers. The last few days, my MIL has slept between 18 and 20 hours per day. When awake, she breathes with some labor, and she regularly shows signs of cyanosis. Her confusion is noticeably worse.

Couple that with what Lisa, the Hospice nurse, noted on her last visit, and I’ve been mentally reviewing what we need to do, what we need to look out for, what I will need to tell the family. I worry that I have cried “wolf” too many times, in my effort to keep everyone informed. Well, better that than a misguided attempt at secrecy, I suppose.

So, I re-read all my posts on this subject. And went through, once again, Dying at Home.

I’m about as ready as I can be.

I hope.

Jim Downey


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“Ready as [you] can be” is about as ready as any of us get, and you’ve done more preparation and planning than most people who have a death at home. I can’t help but think YMIL is like a wind-up toy or clock that is winding down, slow, stuttering to a stop. My thoughts are with y’all.

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Thanks, ML. We’re just taking it hour by hour at this point.

Jim D.

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