Communion Of Dreams


Farewell, Ray.
February 12, 2010, 3:44 pm
Filed under: Alzheimer's, Emergency, Health

Just a quiet note, to follow up to a post from November. Our neighbor, Ray, passed away this morning.

Martha and I had been to visit him several times where he had been receiving care for his fall, the last time a bit before I went out to Las Vegas last month. It was clear then that his health was deteriorating quickly. He was happy to see us, but was no longer as mentally sharp or aware of his surroundings as he had been, and in fact he struck me as being more than a little impatient to be ‘moving on.’ It was almost as though he felt he had overstayed his welcome, living to 97.

So I had been expecting this news. Still, it is a sadness.

But I’ll remember him for as long as I grow tomatoes. One thing he did last year, when he was still very much aware of this world, was to tell me to take his tomato towers, wonderful 6′ tall box-wire supports that are about as old as I am. The last few years I had borrowed these, ‘renting them’ in exchange for keeping him supplied with fresh tomatoes through the summer, dutifully stacking them back in his yard at the end of the season. Now they’ll have a new home.

As I suppose Ray does, in our memories.

Jim Downey


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