Communion Of Dreams


Lasting effects.
August 12, 2011, 3:12 pm
Filed under: Alzheimer's, Hospice

All of us experienced a lot of emotional turmoil while going through and assembling then editing Her Final Year. It wasn’t just dealing with the memories, but also in dealing with the items which we had written at the time – the very thing which makes Her Final Year a powerful book for others made it very difficult for us to work with.

And just recently Martha and I have been experiencing another kind of echo: our elderly cat is dying, basically of dementia.

Our vet has assured us multiple times that she’s in no real pain, and likely won’t be, though he has told us what to watch for to be sure. He’s also asked us multiple times whether we want to euthanize her. Frankly, he’s been a bit surprised that we haven’t taken that route, since the amount of care she needs has increased significantly, and will likely increase even more before the end.

Neither Martha nor I want ‘Her Majesty’ to suffer, and we have no qualms whatsoever in euthanizing her if it comes to that. None.

But we have also been through this, and know that a natural death is nothing to fear. That is one of the lasting effects of having been a care-giver, and going through hospice with Martha Sr.

Still, while it is a good thing, this also touches very close to those memories of Martha Sr’s last weeks.

Very close, indeed.

Jim Downey

(Cross posted from the HFY blog.)


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