Communion Of Dreams


We all know grief. The empty place at the holiday table. The hole in the heart. The missing man. Someone who is gone too soon.

In many ways, absence defines us.

But sometimes, those stars which have vanished from the firmament aren’t gone, they’re just removed from our limited sight. They’re not visible in the day, after all.*

And sometimes, the absence defines something else, bringing perspective, even joy:

“I feel this powerfully — not as fear or loneliness — but as awareness, anticipation, satisfaction, confidence, almost exultation. I like the feeling. Outside my window I can see stars — and that is all. Where I know the moon to be, there is simply a black void, the moon’s presence is defined solely by the absence of stars.”


Jim Downey

Worse before getting better.
February 13, 2008, 8:33 am
Filed under: Flu, Health, Predictions, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Sleep

I mentioned a couple of days ago that I thought I was coming down with something, be it just a cold or some mild version of the flu.  Monday and yesterday were marginal, as I tried to get stuff done and see which way things were going to go.

They went south.  More specifically, the incipient cold has now settled into my throat and chest.  Last night I didn’t get a lot of sleep, and this morning I feel fairly miserable.  Ah well.  I cannot say that I am surprised – after such a long battle in caring for Martha Sr, and then pushing to get through the memorial and whatnot last weekend, my immune system is shot.

And that’s OK, really.  With a modicum of care, I can get through a winter cold/flu in a few days time.  Certainly the extra sleep won’t hurt me.  And while there are plenty of things I should be doing, no one is going to come banging on my door.  I’ll recover from this, then move on.  As Emerson said, “When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.”

Jim Downey